Looking at life from another perspective

Looking at life from another perspective
How you hold your life and what you perceive your life to make all the difference.  What if it were possible to look at your life from another point of view and see things differently?  What if you could take a bad situation and make it good?  Would I have your interest?

I write about the things in my life, relationships, challenges, victories, work, and family.  I write from the heart and the higher part of myself.  It is my intention to share with you what I have learned over the last 20 years living with a Taoist Sexual Master (he would hate for me to refer to him as that), the insights he has and the directions he has taught me to take my life in.  I am forever grateful to him.  He saved me in ways that I don't have words for.  So, when I received information that this very special man might be leaving this plain well......I didn't receive that well.


I have spent the last year in a tailspin.  How do I live without the person who gives me the reason to get up in the morning?  How do I live without the person who fills every gap that I have within myself?  How do I go on without the person that has made me who I am? How do I.... how do I.....how do I?  These are questions that I have been asking myself for the last year.  I have cried....and cried....and cried.  It has been a very hard year since I last wrote.

What do you see?
Amazingly, he is still with me.  Although, he now has some physical challenges, but his spirit has been untouched.  He remains positive even though his circumstance should make him angry.  He see's life as beautiful, and every person in his life as a blessing.  I have never seen someone love profoundly so many people.  I am in constant awe of his strength, compassion, generosity, kindness, and faithfulness.  He never doubts for a second that his life is divinely ordained, and it is divine guidance that leads him.  


Someone outside of knowing him might look at his life and think that the is suffering.  That his last days here are filled with physical pain and hardship. They might wonder what he did in his life to deserve this?  But that's not how he see's it or lives it.  He once again has proven to be such an inspiration to me.


So, how does he do that exactly?  For him, it about trusting the process and looking from another point of view.  He doesn't question "how did this happen?"   He reminds me that we are all dying, some faster than others.  That life is work and filled with joy, love, and God if you choose it.   He looks to make good use of the time he does have.  He keeps going as if nothing is going on and occasionally he stops to catch his breath but moves ahead with a steady pace.  

I find myself asking "how can I apply this to my own life?" I joke with him that he wants me to Forrest Gump my way through life.  Forrest didn't have the stories inside of the experience.   He didn't see things as good or bad, they just were.  There is real magic in that ability.  I strive to live my life from that point of view.  Something bad happens, take a step back and look at other possibilities.  Ask yourself, "where is the silver lining" and you will find it.  

Sometimes it takes me a little bit to arrive at this point of view.  But as soon as I do, and I inquire within, I get the answers that I couldn't see before.  As if the clouds lift and the sun shines through again.  There is such profound joy in being with "what is" and not trying to make it good or bad, but just let it be.