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Romantic Doldrums

One of the most common things I come across in my practice is the cold sex in relationships.  I can not begin to tell you how many couples I know where one or both people are sexually dissatisfied.  This leads the couple down an unfilled road and many times the couple splits up. Limerence is the stage of uncontrolled romantic excitement.   The next stage is getting to know each other with strengths and weaknesses. Third stage is being co parents or partners in work and fourth stage is long term togetherness; the warmth of familiarity and knowing the other person and that person knowing you.  Each of these stages of romance in a relationsip can be equally powerful and exciting, and produce the basis of a hot sexual relationship. I really like being known by my husband as well as he knows me.  He can take part in my arousal and actually get me off for my first orgasm within two minutes; but he likes to hold me off for ten or fifteen minutes before my first o...