Soul Sister
When I moved to California in 1998 I was looking for change in my life. I knew they way I was living my life up and to that point was not working for me. It wasn't that I did not like the friends I had, it was I did not like myself and the way I experienced myself through them. I was pretty sure that I had no idea as to how to make my life work or make a friendship work.
What I did not realized at the time was, experiencing that I did not know put me in the exact right place for knowing. Some refer to this as Zen mind beginners mind. Being able to say to yourself that you know that you don't know puts you at step one. If you haven't come to that conclusion yet, you haven't begun.
One of the things that I longed for was a sister, a friend that would have my back no matter what. I suppose I did not believe that because I didn't have this kind of relationship with my blood family that I couldn't have one. I had an idea as to what I was looking for and I put myself out there to find it. I met all kinds of interesting women along the way. Some successful, some mothers, some artists, so athletes and some dancers. No one "fit" what I was looking for.
This was the magical year that I met my future husband, teacher and friend. It was a good year, filled with my usual ups and downs. Time moved on and I had almost given up on finding my special friend when one day I walked into a hair salon across the street from where I worked and I met her. Our eyes met and I wanted to shake her and say "where have you been!" "I have been looking everywhere for you." She did not see the connection that I did right away, but I was not giving up. I invited her to anything and everything that I could think of. She always said no, or that she was too busy, but I guess when I want something no means not right now. So I kept at it and one day she finally agreed to meet Victor and hang out with us for an evening. The rest is history.
She is my friend that I know will be there for me no matter what. She is my biggest cheerleader and my shoulder to cry on. She always reminds me of the sliver lining in any situation I'm in no matter how bad it seems in the moment. She reminds me that this too shall pass and make me laugh when I want to cry. I can call her in the middle of the night and she would be at my house no questions asked. She would stick up for me if someone held me in a bad light and I know she loves me no matter what I choose in my life. She never judges, she accepts me for who I am and she never says "I told you so." I can not tell you how blessed I feel to have this kind of support. To be able to experience a sister/friend in this way is incredibly powerful for both of us.
It is her Birthday this week and I want her to know that her love in my life do not go unnoticed or unappreciated. She has the ability to bring out the sun when it's raining and I love her more than I have words for. Everyone can experience this kind of closeness with another human being. I highly recommend it.....
Happy Birthday Kristen!
OXOXO.
Allison
What I did not realized at the time was, experiencing that I did not know put me in the exact right place for knowing. Some refer to this as Zen mind beginners mind. Being able to say to yourself that you know that you don't know puts you at step one. If you haven't come to that conclusion yet, you haven't begun.
One of the things that I longed for was a sister, a friend that would have my back no matter what. I suppose I did not believe that because I didn't have this kind of relationship with my blood family that I couldn't have one. I had an idea as to what I was looking for and I put myself out there to find it. I met all kinds of interesting women along the way. Some successful, some mothers, some artists, so athletes and some dancers. No one "fit" what I was looking for.
This was the magical year that I met my future husband, teacher and friend. It was a good year, filled with my usual ups and downs. Time moved on and I had almost given up on finding my special friend when one day I walked into a hair salon across the street from where I worked and I met her. Our eyes met and I wanted to shake her and say "where have you been!" "I have been looking everywhere for you." She did not see the connection that I did right away, but I was not giving up. I invited her to anything and everything that I could think of. She always said no, or that she was too busy, but I guess when I want something no means not right now. So I kept at it and one day she finally agreed to meet Victor and hang out with us for an evening. The rest is history.
She is my friend that I know will be there for me no matter what. She is my biggest cheerleader and my shoulder to cry on. She always reminds me of the sliver lining in any situation I'm in no matter how bad it seems in the moment. She reminds me that this too shall pass and make me laugh when I want to cry. I can call her in the middle of the night and she would be at my house no questions asked. She would stick up for me if someone held me in a bad light and I know she loves me no matter what I choose in my life. She never judges, she accepts me for who I am and she never says "I told you so." I can not tell you how blessed I feel to have this kind of support. To be able to experience a sister/friend in this way is incredibly powerful for both of us.
It is her Birthday this week and I want her to know that her love in my life do not go unnoticed or unappreciated. She has the ability to bring out the sun when it's raining and I love her more than I have words for. Everyone can experience this kind of closeness with another human being. I highly recommend it.....
Happy Birthday Kristen!
OXOXO.
Allison
Comments
Post a Comment