What is a Soul Mate?
I have spent most of my life searching for my "soul mate." I watched Disney movies as a child where the Prince rescues the Princess and they live happily ever after, right? Wrong! I know I had this idea about what my relationship with my Prince would look like. I had no idea as to what was real for me when it came to relationships. I wanted this fantasy that I had made up in my head and watched on the big screen. It took me years to realize that my Prince was standing right in front of me. I had been his student for many years until one day I saw him for who he was. He was the most beautiful person I had ever laid my eyes on. Suddenly it dawned on me that maybe my perfect match was a wise old man that did not fit my idea of physical attraction.
When I was young I was looking for someone that turns me on-physically or some other way. I was very consumed with looking good and wanted my partner to be attractive. What my limited perception at the time didn't tell me is that there are many different ways to perceive a person. For example, had you asked me 15 years ago what my ideal man was like I would have told you something like: 5'9 or taller, dark hair preferably long, tan skin, funny, can dance and is successful. I ended up dating a lot of hot guys that treated me poorly and never really measured up to what I really wanted. Looking back on this, I am amazed at how shallow I was. Now fast forward 15 years and my ideal man looks like this: very wise, we live on the same spiritual page, a good father and shares the same parenting style as me, someone who makes a contribution to his fellow man, into physical health through eating right and exercise, takes care of his mind through meditation, and most of all is 100% committed to our relationship no matter what the circumstances are. My years of study gave me the opportunity to view myself and what I wanted out of relationship from a different standpoint than my youth. I learned to listen to God's view of my life.
I'm lucky, or so it would seem, to have found my true love. He continually challenges me to be a better person and partner, he shows me what is possible for human consciousness is by being who he is, he gives more than he receives, he is a parent to our daughter (not just a friend), there is nothing he wouldn't do for us, he loves me unconditionally and is always there for me, physically, spiritually and emotionally. I thank God for him everyday and I recognize the lengths that he goes through to be my teacher and my husband. I have no way of ever properly expressing how grateful I am for his contribution into my life. Even now after all these years I feel so blessed to be graced by his presence.
What makes our relationship work are a few things: we come from the same place in our lives- our faith is the foundation of who we are, we both have a passion for helping our fellow man, we both feel we have a gift to share with the world, we have the same parenting views, our commitment to each other is the context of our relationship, and neither one of us are looking to extract anything from our relationship but rather to bring satisfaction, love, excitement, integrity, and joy to our relationship. That is not to say we do not have our challenges, we have plenty of them. In our classes, we share the STUFF going on in our lives and you can see the challenges we have, just like you. Through all this, we are 100% committed to our relationship and each other.
When looking for a "soul mate", find out what your common ground is and isn't. Know what is important to you and what you can not live without and BE what you want in a partner. Bring to the relationship what you would like to see there. You can not attract that which you are not.
Warmest regards,
Allison
For more information and class schedule got to:
www.Conscious-Loving.com
When I was young I was looking for someone that turns me on-physically or some other way. I was very consumed with looking good and wanted my partner to be attractive. What my limited perception at the time didn't tell me is that there are many different ways to perceive a person. For example, had you asked me 15 years ago what my ideal man was like I would have told you something like: 5'9 or taller, dark hair preferably long, tan skin, funny, can dance and is successful. I ended up dating a lot of hot guys that treated me poorly and never really measured up to what I really wanted. Looking back on this, I am amazed at how shallow I was. Now fast forward 15 years and my ideal man looks like this: very wise, we live on the same spiritual page, a good father and shares the same parenting style as me, someone who makes a contribution to his fellow man, into physical health through eating right and exercise, takes care of his mind through meditation, and most of all is 100% committed to our relationship no matter what the circumstances are. My years of study gave me the opportunity to view myself and what I wanted out of relationship from a different standpoint than my youth. I learned to listen to God's view of my life.
I'm lucky, or so it would seem, to have found my true love. He continually challenges me to be a better person and partner, he shows me what is possible for human consciousness is by being who he is, he gives more than he receives, he is a parent to our daughter (not just a friend), there is nothing he wouldn't do for us, he loves me unconditionally and is always there for me, physically, spiritually and emotionally. I thank God for him everyday and I recognize the lengths that he goes through to be my teacher and my husband. I have no way of ever properly expressing how grateful I am for his contribution into my life. Even now after all these years I feel so blessed to be graced by his presence.
What makes our relationship work are a few things: we come from the same place in our lives- our faith is the foundation of who we are, we both have a passion for helping our fellow man, we both feel we have a gift to share with the world, we have the same parenting views, our commitment to each other is the context of our relationship, and neither one of us are looking to extract anything from our relationship but rather to bring satisfaction, love, excitement, integrity, and joy to our relationship. That is not to say we do not have our challenges, we have plenty of them. In our classes, we share the STUFF going on in our lives and you can see the challenges we have, just like you. Through all this, we are 100% committed to our relationship and each other.
When looking for a "soul mate", find out what your common ground is and isn't. Know what is important to you and what you can not live without and BE what you want in a partner. Bring to the relationship what you would like to see there. You can not attract that which you are not.
Warmest regards,
Allison
For more information and class schedule got to:
www.Conscious-Loving.com
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