Sexual Yoga


It is your birth right to experience a truly blissful ecstatic relationship with your mate.   Knowing this, why wouldn't you do everything in your power to create it?  What if you knew that you were responsible for this experience?  It is not your partners lack if you do not have it in your relationship.  

In sexual yoga (or Taoist yoga), we are taught that we can have a truly sexually satisfying relationship with our mates.  You learn exercises to enhance your ability to give and receive pleasure.  You learn to take responsibility for yourself in the relationship and bring satisfaction to the relationship.

One of the principles that took me a long time to embody was around satisfaction.  My teacher constantly reminded me that I had satisfaction within me and that I just had to choose it.  I kept looking for satisfaction outside of myself, in events, vacations, people, even food and all forms of recreation.  What I discovered was I was satisfied while I was experiencing the moment but as soon as it was over I was back to square one, unsatisfied.  My life became a vicious circle of events and places I needed to go in oder to feel good inside.  It didn't take me long to realize that I was never going to  be truly satisfied by running my life that way.  I began to look within myself, to search for my own answers.  

With the guidance of my teacher I was able to call forth from within myself satisfaction.  I stopped blaming my partner for the "lack" in our relationship and took responsibility for myself and my interaction with him.  I realized that I had with in me the satisfaction I was searching for.  I then allowed my partner to be exactly who he was without trying to change him.  I discovered that in allowing him to be exactly who he was, I was able to embrace myself.  I accepted all my flaws (if you want to call them that) and all my gifts.  For the first time in my life I felt whole, completely satisfied.


I love this statue.  To me it embodies two people wholeheartedly connected to one another.

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